“Tomorrow I’m going to meet the guy that I recently got to know”, my friend is raving with sparkling eyes and continues, “But what the heck shall I wear?? Somehow sexy it has to be but not cheap!”.

Oh dear, don’t we all know this story? The first Date with Stephen, Max or Roger – or whatever his name is – starts with a total excessive demand in front of the wardrobe. Does he like the jeans that make my ass look super hot? Or does he prefer a feminine dress? Casual in flats or rather the favorite pumps?

First off: Never wear something you don’t feel comfortable in! Never ever – especially not for your first date! Except if you want to think about the fact whether your saucy top with its deep neckline is still into position rather than listening what your date is telling you. Let’s proceed on the assumption that you do not want this, ’cause then I suggest subtle sexiness combined with a pinch of casual coolness.

Now, how to do so? Cut outs placed on beneficial parts of your body (just like my DKNY dress with the cut out at the upper part of the belly, which is flat on most women) are always a safe choice to look seductively sexy but not cheap at all. A light jacket or vest worn above can be a good help if you should feel uncomfortable showing skin and/or at the beginning want to cover yourself a bit. And if you handle high heels: GO FOR IT! In a man’s brain, you can’t go wrong with heels – unless you’re going to meet at a festival or for paintball. Happy dating and happy new week, my loves!

«Morgen treffe ich den Typen, den ich kürzlich kennengelernt habe», schwärmt mir meine Freundin mit funkelnden Augen vor und seufzt, «Was soll ich denn bloss anziehen? Sexy soll es schon irgendwie sein, aber ja nicht billig!».

Hach, wir kennen es doch alle, das erste Date mit Stefan, Max, Roger  – oder wie auch immer er heisst – startet erstmal mit der totalen Überforderung vor der Garderobe. Mag er die Jeans, die mir einen tollen Knackpo machen? Oder doch lieber das feminine Kleidchen? Lässig in flachen Schuhen oder doch lieber die Lieblingspumps?

Eines vorweg, zieh nichts an worin du dich nicht wohl fühlst! Niemals – ganz besonders nicht für das erste Date! Ausser du willst, statt deinem Date zuzuhören, immer daran denken, ob dein Top mit dem aufreizenden, grossen Ausschnitt noch richtig sitzt. Lasst uns mal davon ausgehen, dass du das nicht möchtest. Dann schlage ich nämlich subtile Sexyness gepaart mit einer Prise lässiger Coolness vor.

Wie das geht? Cutouts an vorteilhaften Stellen deines Körpers (z.B. wie bei meinem DKNY Kleid der obere Bereich des Bauchs, der bei den meisten Frauen schön flach ist) sind immer eine gute Wahl verführerisch, aber auf keinen Fall billig, zu wirken. Ein Jäckchen – oder eine Weste darüber – sind hilfreich, falls du dich doch etwas unwohl fühlen solltest und/oder dich anfangs lieber bedenken möchtest. Und wenn du mit hohen Haken klar kommst: NUR ZU! Damit kannst du bei Männern wohl kaum was falsch machen – es sei denn, ihr treffet euch an Festival XY oder zum Paintball. Frohes Daten und eine wundervolle, neue Woche, meine Süssen!

Get the look
Vest: Cheap Monday or similar denim vest
Dress: DKNY
Shoes: Louboutin or budget option
Bag: Valentino or budget option

Photos: Joy Oelen

101 Comments: ADD YOURS


  1. ein super outfit, ich mag die Kombi Streifen und Denim sehr gerne
    und danke für deinen Kommentar
    lg :)

  2. A lovely look is created. Very neat.

  3. You are very beautiful. I love all your fashion sense and I think I am going to look for you in instagram.

  4. love your outfit ! Looks amazing
    Love Bella from xoxobella,com

  5. you are so beautiful!! I love your blog :)

  6. This outfit is the perfect one for a date, a little mix of everything, sexy but cool, feminine but boyish with the sleeveless oversized jacket, hot but classy. Well done, you always amaze me !


  7. Schönes Outfit! Ich finde auch, dass man sich wohlfühlen sollte in seinen Klamotten fürs erste Date, man ist ja schon aufgeregt genug :D
    LG, Käthe von Nicht 75 B

  8. Love this look. I bet your date did too! I’m gonna have to borrow it on my next date, hopefully some time this century haha ;)

    xx Yasmin

  9. Great advises! The outfit you choose is so glam! Love how you mix a striped little dress with pumps!


  10. I love your dress so much you are so gorgeous as always!


  11. Those heels are killer and I love those earrings!

    XO, Jessi

  12. Fabulous heels!


  13. Gorgeous look! I love your ear cuff and cut-out dress. It looks great with the long denim vest! Great combo!

    The Closet by Christie

  14. Lovely! So stunning <3


  15. Love how your look totally is a fun, fashionable look but still shows the bit of skin that a guy would like to see

    ♥ Mlle Wanderlust ♥

  16. Great tips! Im not a fan of cut outs but I like this outfit. of yours. Casual and so classy.

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  17. Outfit LIEBE! <3
    Du siehst umwerfend aus!! Ach und deine Handtasche ist ein wahrer Traum <3
    Liebste Grüße,

  18. Really love your outfit ! xo
    Can we follow each other ? Let me know on my blog and I will follow back immediately xo

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  19. I love how you styled this look! The vest makes the dress pop =)

  20. you look fantastic!


  21. great tip sweetie…looking absolutely chic!!
    kisses from dubai ♥

  22. This outfit is the perfect first date outfit! It’s casual yet classy, sexy yet modest! I love it!

    May | THE MAYDEN

  23. your tips are great and your dress is fabulous. You look definitely stunning wearing it and all of your photos are simply great.

  24. Absolutely love it!!!!! ❤️


  25. I like it! :) In my opinion it’s perfect outfit for a date. Looks feminine because of heels and dress. Very classy not cheap!

  26. Sehr schöner Look und bestimmt auch geeignet für ein Date. Es ist sexy, aber nicht zu sehr. LG


  27. I am so glad you shared this. I think it’s such a good point! You can walk the line of looking great without being too provocative. I think you totally nailed it here.

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  28. Dein Streifen Zweiteiler ist ja mal ein echter Hingucker!
    xoxo Lynda

  29. süßer look

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  30. You rock this outfit babe!


  31. What a sexy, chic and modern look, you are gorgeous :) Kisses

    Fashion and Cookies – fashion blog

  32. Super Look, du siehst bezaubernd aus!

    Hier geht’s zu meinem Blog – Über neue Leser würde ich mich sehr freuen!

  33. Great look, totally love the way you styled your stripe dress!


  34. Great look, I agree with wearing the jacket or vest to make you feel a little more comfortable. Usually the jacket comes off as it gets later and your look can be more sexy.

    xx Falasha

  35. You look gorgeous as usual!

  36. Very well done, sexy doesn’t mean revealing too much skin like wearing mini dresses all the time. Love your look and you look beautiful!

    The Flower Duet

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  38. Love this post and the look is stunning! What a great two-piece!


  39. Beautiful look and you are totally looking sexy. :D


  40. Bei deinem Text musste ich gleich grinsen – das Problem, mehr mit dem Sitzen des Outfits als mit dem Date beschäftigt zu sein kenne ich nur zu gut :D Dein Outfit würde ich genau so auf ein Date anziehen, wirklich schön kombiniert!

    Liebe Grüße aus München,

  41. Those shoes are so awesome! I’m in love<3 And love the striped look. You look so stylish as always!


  42. Love the outfit! Looks perfect for a date night!

  43. this outfit is just perfect! <3

  44. love it!


  45. Hello Michele, what a perfect look for the first date! You look feminine and sexy but very classy. I love showing a bit of skin but in a place that isn’t obvious, like in your outfit. When it comes to shoes, I wore flats on the first date with my boyfriend and it turned out to be a great decision, because we took a long walk afterwards :)


  46. PERFECT! The right amount sexy combined with badass. The neutral colors allow you to really WORK IT! Love the mesh Louboutins and the earrings. Great outfit all the way!

    I’m blogging about similar things, check it out and let me know what you think: http://www.kellmenow.com

    XO K

  47. The shoes are so gorgeous! Love this look!

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  48. You look so pretty and sexy not trashy, perfect for a date =D


  49. These are amazing tips! I wish all the girls followed them every time they get dressed, not just for a date!

    And your outfit is perfect!


  50. Great tips, love the denim vest!

    How to combine a DENIM SKIRT on
    lb-lc fashion and lifestyle blog

  51. Babe, you always look HOT, not matter what!

    xxx Linsey from POSE-BLOG.com

    You can also check my BLOGLOVIN & FACEBOOK if you like! :)

  52. Wonderful outfit Michele!
    and your writings are pretty good:)

    mynameiskristina blog // bloglovin

  53. Ein tolles Streifenkleid, steht dir ausgezeichnet!

    Laiyin || THESTYLECIRCUS.net

  54. You look absolutely gorgeous in this outfit and it’s the perfect look for a date! I love the way you paired a denim vest with this striped skirt and top set.


  55. You look so gorgeous and am just in love .. Not too much and not too less
    Very inspiring and from this look i see my next post ha!
    Lovely Week dear

    Lg aus München


  56. Hee du!
    Ich denke auch, dass es ganz, ganz wichtig ist, sich wohl in seiner Haut zu fühlen. Wer sich in hohen Schuhen nicht wohlfühlt, flache tragen. Wer lieber Jeans mag, nicht plötzlich zum Kleidchen greifen. Das wirkt aufgesetzt und das merken die Herren der Schöpfung ja auch.
    Auf jeden Fall ist dein Outfit ganz, ganz toll. Das Kleid ist wirklich richtig hübsch.
    LG Marmormaedchen

  57. Love this dress! The little cut-out is so cute!

    Enclothed Cognition

  58. Love everything about this look! You wear stripe so well!

    xoxo, Christina

    Stray Birds and Lavender

  59. you don’t look cheap at all, lovely outfit :)

  60. Eine coole Mischung! Gefällt mir sehr :)
    Ich trage auch gerne diesen Mix aus verführerisch und lässig, das kann kaum falsch sein ;)

  61. Very sweet and chic look for a date! Love the bag for a touch of glamour. You look amazing!


  62. sleek, chic and sexy, that’s my kind of girl

  63. Beautiful, you look confident and sexy! Go get ’em pretty lady.


  64. Amazing outfit and lovely shoes.


  65. Amazing look dear, I love stripes with denim!
    Kisses! F.


  66. love how classy and casual this look is. the jeans gilet is a dream! x


  67. Hot, babe! <3

    Shall We Sasa

  68. These are such great tips! Thankfully, I don’t have to go through this ordeal but I will pass these tips onto friends who are freaking out over this! Wearing something your comfortable in is the best advice ever. I love how casual but still sexy your look is! I thought the dress was a matching set at first with the denim jacket over the top.


  69. Die Schuhe sind ja einfach nur der Knaller! Ein wirklich hübscher Look, genau richtig fürs erste Date :)

    Liebe Grüße

  70. Lovely!


  71. Die Schuhe hauen einen um <3<3

    Liebe Grüße
    Cherifa von http://www.curlsallover.blogspot.de

  72. That dress looks great on you and I love the outfit :)


  73. I agree nothing worse than being uncomfortable on your first date because of your clothing choice! You look very classy and feminine in this outfit love the denim touch it adds a young and casual vibe to the complete look.

  74. Total süßes outfit! Die KOmbi mit der Weste gefällt mir sehr gut.


  75. You have the most gorgeous smile! Loveee this outfit, stripes and denim is a dreamy combo!

    Shot From The Street | Fashion Blog

  76. Super Outfit, das Kleid und die Schuhe sind umwerfend!
    Liebe Grüße

  77. you look great. I’d lose the denim vest though personally

    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

  78. First things first, such a cute look. Love the long denim vest, though I could never pull it off.
    Secondly, girls/ladies/women should print out this post and hang it inside their closet as a reference guide to date night. This not only applies to a first day that has romantic intentions but any first time out with new people. For intense, you’re hanging out with a girlfriend on a Saturday night and a group of her friends you never met before. You don’t want to be the cheap looking plus 1 friend.
    Great post.


  79. Fabulous striped outfit! <3
    x MS
    Back in 90s & 60s: Denim & Espadrilles on the Ukrainian Stylish Report

  80. Immer so schön :)

  81. Lovely outfit!


  82. Love your DKNY dress! This whole outfit looks amazing!


  83. Love the stripped two piece with the denim vest! Gorgeous!

  84. Oh, wie schön. Ein tolles Thema, das du dir für diesen Outfitpost ausgedacht hast. Und du hast Recht: Die Kombination aus sexy und cool wirkt auf Männer wohl am allerbesten.

    Ines | twashioncom

  85. wow love your dress and your shoes!
    new outfit-post on my blog!!

  86. Love the dress! x


  87. Love your look! You rock it! <3


  88. You’re killing it in this outfit!! I like the way you’ve styled the whole look.


  89. absolutely love this dress! x
    Lynn | http://nexttolondon.blogspot.com(

  90. Well written, thank you for sharing!

  91. Tolles Outfit und total gut getroffen! <3

    Liebe Grüße

  92. Toller Look :-* http://www.thepinkheartgirl.blogspot.,de

  93. The dress is PERFECT ;)

    Bisous from France, *-* Sand. *-*


  94. Great look!!! Perfect!
    Passa a trovarmi VeryFP

  95. …außer ihr trefft euch zum Paintball! Danke, habe sehr gelacht ;)
    Lg, Kathi

  96. In love with that jacket! So cool. Perfect look too. :)

  97. Hier präsentierst du eine Alternative zum typischen “Kleinen Schwarzen ” ;) gefällt mir außerordentlich gut! :) Liebe Grüße!


  98. I love your dress with the denim vest

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